{"id":68,"date":"2009-03-03T21:12:40","date_gmt":"2009-03-04T03:12:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/?p=68"},"modified":"2009-03-03T21:12:40","modified_gmt":"2009-03-04T03:12:40","slug":"giving-doesnt-stop-when-deployment-ends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/2009\/03\/giving-doesnt-stop-when-deployment-ends\/","title":{"rendered":"Giving Doesn’t Stop When Deployment Ends"},"content":{"rendered":"

Here is an article about the deployment of the New Jersey National Guard<\/a>. <\/p>\n

But it’s so much more than that. It’s an article about the things no one talks about: that being the one left at home is much harder than you think it’s going to be (no matter how independent you are); that the Deployment lasts longer than the year your spouse is gone and you will be dealing with its aftermath (on both sides) for many weeks\/months once you’re back together; and that even knowing those first two things – it’s so hard to admit that things still aren’t going the way you thought they would!<\/p>\n

After a year without Paul, there was a certain amount of patting myself on the back. (I did it! He’s home safe!) But I’m afraid my military-wife-work is far from finished. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t wish for more patience, more understanding, more strength… and I wonder if there are other wives out there who feel like they have already given everything they have to give.<\/p>\n

My favorite quote is from a NJ Guard spouse who is dealing with a problem with the plumber while her husband is gone:
\n“Listen, I know it’s a little thing, but there have been too many little things. What I really, really want is my husband back.”<\/p>\n

Couldn’t have said it better myself. And let me add – at the risk of sounding ungrateful – what I really, really want now<\/em> is my pre-deployment husband back.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Here is an article about the deployment of the New Jersey National Guard. But it’s so much more than that. It’s an article about the things no one talks about: that being the one left at home is much harder than you think it’s going to be (no matter how independent you are); that the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,6,10,15],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-68","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-guardreserve-issues","category-press","category-re-deployment","category-relationship-changes"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=68"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/68\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=68"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=68"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.myheroesathome.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=68"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}